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Difficult Daughters

I have been trying to avoid any discussion on the topic “Marriage” but I’ve been hearing so much from every corner. Worst of it, All my friends around me are getting married one by one. It seems as if marriage is in the air…as if one’s life is flooded with nothing but the only aim of getting married. I’ve listened to all the advices of grown ups with a smile, some of which were very harsh…and some taunts from friends also.I wanted to  vent out my feelings! Only, I did not know whom to talk to…wanted to avoid voicing my opinion on my blog but I think its the best way to tell the world my state of mind. My blog has become a place where I find solace. Whenever things are getting on to me, I tend to isolate myself and plunge into writing. And while doing that, I feel as if I’m talking to my best friend who understands me and just lets me be what I am!
December 2010, I took a tough call. I left my job as an IT headhunter and started studying French in L’Alliance Francaise de Delhi. From doing B.Com and moving to MBA(HR), then joining a consulting firm to studying French! I’m clearly a living example of Diversity! 😀 Everyone says I don’t have a career focus but that’s not the case. I’m very well clear on what I want to do in life and I’m very well doing it as well. Professionally and Academically, I don’t regret any decision I took. The decisions had been the best one at that time and place. I’m very clear on not taking up any Gurgaon / Noida job. Somehow, while working, I realised that I am not at all enjoying my work and I often missed my language classes (whether english or french). So, I decided to start my french classes simultaneously with my job. Soon, I realised that I am not able to focus on both and how much I craved to go back home, open my french textbook and start doing my homework (that was for the first time, that I looked forward to doing some homework :P). After this enlightenment, I made decision to leave my job and pursue my passion. That was the first foolishness I did according to my family and relatives – leaving a full fledged career and starting all over again. I could never made them understand that this really makes me happy. After much tries, I gave up on that.
Then, came the issue of getting married. Ok, I’m 24 years what? I know I am a very difficult-to-deal-with-stubborn-headed-obstinate-case when it comes to marriage just because I don’t understand that why there is a certain age by which you should get married.People around me are going ga ga over my marriage plans. Everybody’s so called “SAPNE” will only get fulfilled because of my wedding and those dreams are of decking themselves up in heavy sarees and lehengas (Yes, I belong to a punju family :P). I feel that there is no right age to get married. One should get married only when one feels like…only when you want to share your life with someone…when you think that you are mature enough and you know yourself well and can relate to the other person easily and if age is a consideration, then you are merely following the societal norms and doing what everyone else does. I am happily single and unmarried. I have a lot to do in life yet. Neither I am dying to have a life partner soon nor I daydream of my wedding. I personally feel, that marriage is more about the feelings, the vows to spend you WHOLE yes your whole life with someone rather than just heavy jewellery, shimmery clothes and full on makeup!!!!!!!!!!! So, one should be very careful how to go about it and it will happen only at its destined time with the destined person. So, just take a chill pill and breathe 🙂
P.S: I’ve never been vocal about my decisions in life but today I feel light.
P.P.S:  Difficult Daughters is a book by Manju Kapoor…the story of a woman who goes through so many obstacles just to have the love of her life by her side…I don’t relate to this character at all in the book…but I know Mom, A Difficult Daughter I am 🙂 🙂 🙂